I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people say “I hate having my photo taken,” or “I hate the experience of having my photo taken.” Many people jokingly say that they just don’t look good in photos.

To this, I say that is absolutely not true.

You look amazing, you are truly beautiful, no matter your curves and edges (thanks John Legend). It’s not just a cliche, it’s true; you are beautiful.

However, I know that it’s easy to not feel comfortable in photos. Nearly everyone I photograph experiences some trepidation in front of the camera because they are regular people like you! Unless you are a full-time model, being in front of the camera is weird at first, so I want to provide a few quick tips, thoughts, and pieces of advice to help you feel more comfortable while being photographed.

Own who you are

“I don’t like the way I look.” Own who you are! No one cares about that pimple (which is easily removed in photoshop by the way), no one cares about your body shape and no one should. You are you, own that from the start. Listen to more John Legend if needed.

Relax and enjoy the experience

A common complaint is that people “don’t like the experience of being photographed.” It’s my job to make you feel comfortable and at ease during your photo shoot. That’s why when I shoot weddings and engagements I keep things light, fun, and quick. I’m not a fan of “stand there, look this way, turn that way, etc.” Sure, a few tips on how to look your best will be helpful for everyone, but for the most part, I want you to have a fantastic time with your other half. I want you both to feel like you are on a date. When you feel free to laugh, be yourselves, and be natural, those emotions will come through in your photos. Focus on having fun with each other and your photos won’t be stiff or awkward, but easy, natural, and full of your story.

Be comfortable

On the day of your shoot, especially engagement sessions, wear comfortable clothing that fits your style. Don’t try to be someone else. The same is true when choosing your shoot location. Choose a place that fits who you and your significant other are as a couple. Go for photos that are meaningful to you, not ones that you think will impress on Instagram or at the family party.

Get to know your photographer

Being photographed can be strange, but being photographed by a stranger is weird! One of my goals before any shoot is to get to know you. Before my couples book their wedding dates, I want to have multiple conversations, either on the phone, through a video call, and even better, with an in-person meeting, to help us get to know each other. Don’t start fresh on the day of the shoot, instead try to get to know your photographer. This will pay off on your wedding day, when you’ve had a meeting or two, plus an engagement session. By the time their wedding comes many have told me having me there was like having a friend along for the ride.

In the end, being photographed gets easier the more you do it. Once you embrace the imperfections of life and realize how good you can look in your photos, nervousness will ease away and you will be able to be yourself in future shoots.

Leave a comment below, do you have any questions or thoughts on what it takes to feel confident in front of the camera?